My relationship with my hair and tips for styling curls

Curly hair styling tips
Laura Haley Photography

I don’t normally start chatting beauty on here as let’s be honest, I’m not exactly a pro, but I really wanted to do some hair chat about my attitude has changed more recently towards my natural curls, plus my favourite products to use.

As a kid, I actually had fairly straight but very thick hair and I wasn’t until I became a teenager that it started to curl properly. Unfortunately for me, being at secondary school in the early noughties was went straighteners were still a bit shit and straight hair was the only cool kid option. I still remember vividly being told that I wouldn’t get a boyfriend until I straightened my hair by the boy I fancied in my year 8 science class. As a teenager in particular it was conditioned into me (pun entirely intended) that I should straighten my hair. That my hair looks better that way. And that seemed to be an on-going trend until my early twenties.

Every person I have ever dated has, without exception, told me I should straighten my hair. Every. Single. Damn. One. In fact, I still remember being at university and a male friend of mine telling me that men categorically do not find curly hair attractive. And (not surprisingly) for a long time, that made me so unbelievably insecure about my natural hair. It made me think that something that was so natural about my appearance wasn’t good enough, that it made me unattractive, that nobody would want to be with me if I had curly hair. It’s taken me until the age of 25 to develop that fuck it attitude enough to take every straight haired photo off my Tinder profile.

I hate that my attitude to my hair for so long has been shaped by people I’ve dated in the past, but consciously putting that insecurity behind me has meant that over the last six months or so, I’ve really enjoyed styling my hair. The last time I had my hair cut, I asked my hairdresser to cut it so that it would be big and full of volume, and she did exactly that. I’ve always found managing curly hair far easier and lower maintenance than straight hair, so my getting ready time to go out has also been cut in half.

When it comes to styling naturally curly hair, here are my five top tips:

1. After washing your hair, run mousse through it whilst it’s still wet (rather than towel dried) as the product mixes with the water and helps to define the curls better. I tend to mousse my hair, then scrunch it a lot before diffuse drying it. My favourite hair mousse at the moment is £1.49 in Boots and it’s the own brand one for curly hair.

2. Dry your hair upside down until it’s 80% dry. I use a low heat setting on my hairdryer and diffuse it upside down to make sure I get maximum volume but reduce frizz by never letting it get to 100% dry.

3. Use a serum. I use a Frizz Ease serum which I run through my hair after drying it to stop it getting totally wild.

4. Never go for a straight parting. I find that my hair is bigger when my parting is slightly off centre but quite messy – I tend to run my fingers back through it and let it fall naturally.

5. If your hair goes flat throughout the day, shake your hair out upside down then scrunch it with wet hands to reduce the frizz.

Embracing my curly hair has been a long time coming and I really hope more people with natural curls bin off their straighteners for a bit. Let me know in the comments if you’re a curly haired guy or gal and link me up to your Instagram so that I can follow you!


  1. Lizi, it saddens me so much that you've been told such hurtful and also meaningless comments from such a young age!
    I LOVE your hair curly! And you know what, you totally own it!


  2. Only crazy people think curly hair is anything other than wonderful!
    I've been told the same things too - by friends, boyfriends, hairdressers ... but clearly none of them know what they are talking about :D
    KC loves my big stupid mess of hair though, so I know I've got a keeper!