Different or better?

Different or better?
Albert Einstein Quote

It’s the time of year where everyone is on a full-scale life revamp so I thought it would be a good time to sit and try and put into words something I’ve been thinking for a while.

We spend a lot of time comparing ourselves and thus feeling better or worse about things that aren’t all that comparable. I think we’re all guilty of it, especially when it’s within friendships which came out of education as we feel as though as we left at the same life stage, having been at the same institution, that we’re on a level playing field. But it’s just not the case. We’re brought up through education being constantly compared to our peers, whether it’s on sports day or the dreaded brown envelope of GCSE results, and we leave those institutions believing that we’re up against everyone in our academic year.

Life plans aren’t the same. Just because there are people you went to school with who are settling down, doesn’t mean you’re being left behind. You might be in a steady job, but that doesn’t mean your friend who’s been travelling for the last year is doing it wrong either. It doesn’t make you ahead of the game if you’re the first in a friendship group to have a family, but it also doesn’t mean that you did it ‘too soon’.

I feel like there’s a lot of bitterness around who’s doing what and when right now. Millenials are up against it, being told that they need the dream job, live the gal about town lifestyle, lead that Instagram-perfect relationship and yet still squeeze in finding yourself on a beach in Thailand. We can’t do it all and yet the media conditions us into believing we should be.

Albert Einstein once said ‘Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believe that it is stupid’. And it’s true. Let’s face it, we’ve all sat and said ‘well so and so from school earns more than me’, and yet so and so works in an entirely different industry which we chose not to go into. They’re not doing ‘better’, it’s just different. It’s not comparable.

I know I’m the worst for grading myself against people I went to school and university with despite the fact that we all went in entirely different directions. I compare my blog to people who lead entirely different lifestyles and cover completely different subject areas. Hell, in my last gym class I was trying to do more burpees than the girl on the mat next to me and I have never seen her before in my life. I’m a comparer. And it’s pointless.

2017 is the year where I’d like to take a step back and think actually, does what they’re doing and succeeding impact my life? No? Then it’s a success of theirs to celebrate, not something for me to benchmark myself against.

Are you guilty of comparing yourself against other people? Let me know in the comments! 

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